Dare I be so bold?
Is there really a single solution for all emotional / psychological problems and phobias?
From my perspective there’s only one problem in life. And this is something anyone who’s ever had a BOTHERSOME problem has done –“to themselves”.
Not that all solutions will come automatically. But that the real PAIN causing part of the problem is pretty much just one simple little thing.
But before we continue let me explain exactly what I mean by “Emotional Problems.”
Defined: “Emotional Problems”
Any thought or feeling that makes you feel less than joyously
happy regardless of the outer reason or cause for the feelings.
Examples of Emotional Problems
4. Panic Attacks
7. Loss of control
8. Overeating or eating junk food during times of stress
12. Low self-esteem
And even such conditions as bulimia, anorexia, claustrophobia etc. I’d also consider as emotional problems that can be quickly resolved with this simple idea.
I realize some of these emotional issues may have a physical or chemical component as well. I’ll address that later in the article.
Now get ready to discover this incredibly simple yet life-changing secret.
All painful emotional problems happen for one reason only.
It’s because we’re focusing on the PROBLEM (specifically emotional PAIN) instead of the SOLUTION or JOY.
Focus on the problem and you make it worse. You actually attract more problems and more aggravation.
Focus on the solution and you start to feel better immediately. Ideas for multiple ways to solve the problem start coming to you.
Just because there is a problem in your outer life does not mean you have to focus on the problem and worry about it.
You always have the choice of thoughts you want to think. And therein lies your power to solve all emotional problems.
How about I give you a couple of examples…
1. Flat tire:
Let’s say you get a flat tire, which makes you late for work and you don’t know how to change it and you’re cell phone battery is dead.
Would you start panicking under those circumstances?
Would you get upset?
Would you blame someone for the problem and then just be annoyed for the day?
Maybe you’d have a gnawing sense of fear in your gut that makes you physically sick.
Isn’t it possible to feel just as much joy before the flat tire as after it?
After all, you are in charge of your thoughts and feelings. It doesn’t matter what happens outside of you. All that matters is how you react to it.
And who do you think will get a better resolution to their flat tire problem? The person who’s upset about it and worrying. Or the person who fully trusts that it will work out?
I’d bet you the second person will find a solution quickly and make a new friend at the same time.
2. Argument with your spouse, family member or friend:
Now this situation is a little more tricky. In an argument, emotions flair and there’s usually anger involved.
It’s usually one person trying to control another.
In this case, the only reason for the anger and the argument is because you’re focused on what you can’t control. You want to change the other person in some way, the other person wants to change you and you may be using negative feelings, guilt etc. to try to force the change.
But in truth, you never need to have the argument in the first place. An argument can only happen if you focus on negative emotions.
Trust me I’ve had thousands of arguments over the course of my lifetime, but that has been changing dramatically with my recent discovery.
These days I find it next to impossible to get mad. The situations that used to be arguments are calm and loving discussions.
I realize now “FINALLY” that I can only control myself. That I’m more likely to get cooperation through love and kindness than through argument, fault finding and nit-picking.
And so if you take this approach, the argument never even happens to begin with. And you stay focused on JOY instead of hate, anger and fear.
You let go the need to control and trust that life will go just fine.
And things that used to bother you, just don’t seem so important anymore.
I’m not saying to do this with your children. Though they should be given as much freedom as you can without spoiling them or letting them hurt themselves.
But with adults it’s best not to try and control but to remain in the JOY consciousness at all times.
Now getting back again to the main point…
The source of all emotional or psychological issues is just one simple thing.
The person is focusing on the emotional PAIN instead of PLEASURE.
We all have thoughts and emotions. But sometimes the pain is so great it fully captures our attention and it grows and grows. But we chose to put our attention on fear in the first place.
Eventually it gets to the point where it’s a phobia or some other sort of hardened psychological condition or complex.
But all you have to do to get rid of the pain, phobia or complex is to “focus on how you WANT TO FEEL,” regardless of what’s going on in your outer world.
Think about it… if you focus on your pain — you get more pain.
If you focus on LOVE and HAPPINESS, you get more LOVE and HAPPINESS.
What you focus upon magnifies.
And when you’re in a state of LOVE, HAPPINESS and JOY solutions are much easier to come by.
It’s just that simple.
And life is simple.
When you’re in a POWERFUL state of JOY you bring greater energy into your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of yourself and this greater energy allows you to CREATE and ATTRACT into your life positive things much easier than when you’re mired in emotional pain, fear and chaos.
And your sense of self actually expands. You become magnetic.
To get out of the pain, you have to stop playing the old record of pain, anger, depression or frustration.
Just go to your record player (Oops I mean to your cassette player, actually your CD player, then again maybe your iPod) — well you get the picture — and turn off the sad song and put on a happy one.
It’s just as easy to listen to a happy song as a sad one.
The only exception I can find to this solution to all emotional problems is when someone is in a physically caused state of unhappiness.
For many years I found it next to impossible to feel happy. Even when I was focusing on God and happy thoughts.
That is because my body was out of whack. I was even trying all day long to focus on positive thoughts and yet I felt the emotional pain crippling me.
Though by my focusing on the positive I was able to survive at least. It improved my situation but did not resolve it.
In this case my body was focused on the negative emotions via the food I was eating. I was on a cooked food diet and once you cook the food you literally take the life force and love out of the food.
And I’m not just saying this. There’s no question there’s way more joy in freshly squeezed orange juice compared to pasteurized juice in a carton. You can feel the fresh squeezed juice tingling with life.
My body needed its food to be positive just as much as I needed my thoughts to remain positive.
Other than a chemically or biologically caused depression the simple solution to all psychological problems is to stop playing the record of pain in your mind over and over again.
And it doesn’t matter what your outer circumstance are.
End of story.
Doesn’t matter what anyone did to you in the past.
Doesn’t matter if you were a nerd or uncool in school and lots of kids made fun of you.
Doesn’t matter if your drunk father beat you mercilessly.
Doesn’t matter if you were raped.
Doesn’t matter if you have low self-esteem.
The pain of these problems is ALWAYS because your focusing on pain instead of JOY.
Even if you weren’t consciously aware of it. That’s what you’ve been doing… creating your own Hell.
If you focus on the emotional pain of being beaten, then you’ll have more of that pain. Maybe you’ll feel anger or guilt.
But those are your choices.
Why recreate and relive what happened in the past. Bless the situation and move on.
One of the greatest attributes of advanced spiritual beings is forgiveness.
And the only moment is NOW.
The past is gone. The future never comes because there’s only NOW.
For as you focus on any pain you recreate it over and over again and bring destruction to your own world and your body. In fact, negative emotions are one of the causes of premature aging.
All FEAR is due to — focusing on FEAR.
Even if you have a tiger getting ready to seemingly pounce on you, you still have the choice to focus on fear or JOY. And somehow I suspect that if you managed to be able to focus on LOVE that the tiger simply wouldn’t be interested in attacking you. Many a yogi has walked through the jungles of India which are filled with tigers and yet never been attacked by them.
In my experience, there is no FEAR in HEAVEN.
If your focus is on or in HEAVEN then nothing can harm you.
If your focus is on something other than JOY, HAPPINESS and LOVE then you’ll experience pain and problems. And that emotional state of unease is what I call Hell.
And it’s a completely self-created Hell.
Right now in this very moment, you can make a decision to change. You can never again be bothered by any emotional distress at all if you”ll simply focus on JOY, LOVE and HAPPINESS regardless of outer circumstances.
Please let me know what you think of this simple way of handling all emotional problems.
Hope this brightens your day,
The 44-Year Old Teenager
P.S. Please don’t overlook this idea because it’s so simple. This will revolutionize your life if you consciously apply it.
I can tell you I live in an almost constant paradise since I’ve been applying these ideas. You can do the same.
P.P.S. Depression is a horrible experience and I had it two times in my life. Personally, I was able to beat my depression in less than 24 hours of switching to a Raw Food Diet.
And I’ve met many other Raw Foodists who find it’s much easier to be happy even under conditions that used to be stressful and fear producing for them once they got their body aligned with nature by eating raw foods.
Here are some of my raw food diet resources that may just give you the tools you need to go raw and be MERRY.